Tuesday, March 3, 2009

What Might Have Been?

Sometimes as we travel through life certain things make us step back & evaluate what is important in our own lives. Just this past week I had one of those moments.

One of my co-workers approached me about a month & a half ago to share with her my experience with fertility treatments. She & her husband had been trying to conceive for a while now & felt they were getting no where with her regular ob/gyn. Knowing that I had traveled down that same path, she thought she would bounce some ideas off of me. So, Barb & I discussed the fertility road that Paul & I had taken & ended up recommending that she contact the doctor (Dr. W.) that we had actually used.

Fast forward two weeks....Barb had her first appointment with Dr. W. & loved him. He came up with a plan for Barb & her husband. However, he wanted to see her the following week for some more testing & to see how her body was reacting to the medicine that she had started on. When she went back for the follow-up appointment, Dr. W. found a cyst/tumor the size of an apple on one of her ovaries. Preliminary blood work showed that is was positive for cancer.

This past Friday Barb went for further testing & was told that not only is there a tumor on the left ovary, but there is also one on the right ovary. As you can imagine, she is devastated. She is meeting with the gynecological oncologist next week to see where they go from here. She so much wants to be a mom, but first must get over this hurdle. Please keep Barb & her family in your thoughts & prayers.........

So, as I thought about Barb & her hubby all weekend, I kept looking at Zoe & wondering what might have been.....What would Zoe's life be like if she was still living in the orphanage in China? What if Paul & I had gotten pregnant through fertility? Would we still have been led to adopt? Would Zoe have entered our lives anyway?.....

Paul & I are both honored to have been chosen to be Zoe's parents. We thank God time & time again for the answered prayers as well as the unanswered prayers. Otherwise.......What Might Have Been?

4 comments:

Cathy said...

I'll be sure to add Barb to 'list'. Zoe is one lucky little girl to have parents like you!

Missy said...

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I will be praying for her and her husband as they go through this together. So sad, but it is good they found it and she can get it taken care of.

I know what you mean about what might have been...I think about that all of the time, too. It's what lets me know that there is a God and he connects people and it is His perfect plan!

Stephanie said...

I will be praying for your friend.

How blessed your family is! That Zoe is a beautiful little girl.

Lianna Knight said...

I will be praying for your friend Barb....I am so thankful that you two had the fertility discussion, if it wasn't for that, she might not have found out about the cancer. You are a blessing...to your friend, to your hubby, and especially to my favorite little dimpled girl :)